how do you go through life without having a single fursona
genuine question to not fursona havers
@kat I don't have a fursona despite being a furry! Character Fursonas kinda freak me out actually. I'm just me. :3
@kat I'm honestly not 100% sure. I think it's something to do with the fact that in some instances it sounds an /awful lot/ like a plural thing and so I'm /always/ second-third-fourth-guessing over whether someone's unknowingly suppressing people.
@IceWolf i feel like it’s just kinda like how superman sometimes wears a bad suit and pretends he’s a different guy who majored in journalism
@kat It's like, "oh here's [person], they like XYZ, they're not me!" is _indistinguishable_ between their headmate or their fursona.
And "oh they're just a part of me!" ties into triggers.
@kat Saying that other people /aren't actually themselves/ and are just Another Part of the speaking person is what's triggery.
@IceWolf i don’t really think a fursona is a separate person from me though, even if I give them a backstory
@kat Nope, not really, 'cause the fictional characters are /their own thing/ and not supposed to be Just Part Of The Author.
@IceWolf tbh I know a lot of people with fursonas that are “it’s just a character that I like dressing as” and a lot of authors like “every character is an aspect of me,” where do you like... draw the line on that
@kat Yeah... honestly I think all those would be iffy, although "it's just a character that I like dressing as" on the less iffy end. It's a gradient spectrum. RPG characters are kinda floating nearby, off the low end of the scale; the fact that they're explicitly temporary and not really supposed to be tied to you in some fundamental way helps a lot.
@IceWolf fictional characters in general are meant to be less a literal existing person and more a vehicle through which a storyteller and hearer can conceptualize ideas, i'm not sure there's any meaningful difference between the two other than the topic being "identity"
@kat (and then you sometimes get fictional characters showing up in the author's head and flipping the whole thing upside down :P)
@kat (which is /really fucking cool!/ and also not really relevant; that's not triggery in the least)
@IceWolf at this point i have like 10 fursonas and it's kind of an identity thing but definitely not a plural thing
it's like the weird horny version of that proverb about three blind dudes touching different parts of an elephant
i am a single hyperdimensional disaster gay that can only be expressed in this world in the shape of 10 separate animal girls
@IceWolf @kat I've been suppressed before and it's extremely traumatic, but I do want to say that a lot of people use this as a method of self discovery and it doesn't have to be related to plural things. All beings tend to be multi-faceted and if compartmentalizing is how they learn and grow and discover themselves, more power to them.
@kat My perception of physical self has never been consistent enough to paint physical picture of me :)
@kat I don't really mind having none and I don't really kin anything I get enough enjoyment with watching other people be fulfilled.
@kat I just don't. never really put thought into it or care to. it's cool when people do I just don't really want one
@kat i'll be honest i keep trying to think of friends to ask this question to and the problem is they've all acquired fursonas in the meantime
@kat We didn't have a fursona for the first 17 years of our life and...
Huh, actually life wasn't all that much fun before we got a fursona. You may be on to something.
@kat I like shapeshifting! Not having a determined form is really comfortable to me I think. I think it also kinda melts into how I create/ use characters? (Like I don't really have "OCs" since I don't usually draw the same character twice, nor do I ever really give them any backstory or personality)
But idk, for all I know this could all just be because I don't really have a grasp on my own identity or my wants so it'd be kind of hard to create an idealized version of myself
@kat I was gonna answer, but you made me realize that I kinda had a few and just never considered or took them out of their specific daydreams. So I guess my answer is, by compartmentalizing
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