Firebird Trans ​♀️ @kat@glaceon.social

preferred pronouns:

“he’s a good boy” ❌ ⚔️
“she’s a good girl” ✅ 💤
“he’s a good girl” 🌟 🌟 🌟
“she’s a good boy” 🌟 🌟 🌟

oh hey tataru

primarina with paw print tattoos

reposting this @gardevoir post so i can keep it forever tbh

VR hangout instructions:

1) get VRchat (it is free, runs on most computers, and has a not-VR mode if you do not have a headset)

2) add this person to your friends list: ∴ Kat ∴

3) at ⚠️ 8PM EST on Saturdays ⚠️, find me on the social list and join the room i'm in, or request an invite if it's invite-only

if you could translate my beautiful mermaid song it would say:

craigslist m(ermaid) 4 f - need cute beach girl to come tie me in a fucking pretzel get in touch by screaming into a conch shell ttys

do primarinas make their clothing or is it some kind of natural biological growth

transfemme sonic

if someone’s like “I see this character as transmasc/transfemme” and you feel the need to share a different headcanon please just at least consider “I have this headcanon personally but yours is also a cool way to look at it” instead of “no they’re the other thing”

trans stuff is really personal and not up for debate, please just consider like “I like to see that character as (other thing) personally, let’s bond over sharing different ideas” and maybe step a little bit back from “um actually no they’re not that thing you said anyway moving on”

if someone’s like “I like to think this character is (specific variety of trans)” please consider it’s probably because they relate to that character and going “actually they’re (other kind of trans)” is really invalidating and misgendery

PSA

i always worry people will take that as "i don't care about you" or "we're not very good friends" or "i'm prioritizing other people over you because i like them more" but like

at a certain point it's just gotta be "i can only give so much of myself to anything" and even if my absolute best friend asks "hey wanna do this thing" sometimes i'm gonna have to be like "absolutely not, love u tho"

like i'm not gonna treat every interaction as "fuck you, what do i get out of it" but i really gotta be better about "i can't do that, i need to rest" or "we're still friends but i'm not feeling it right now" or "i don't feel up for talking about this currently, we cool tho" and not backing down on it

i push myself way too hard on that stuff because of abuser trauma stuff but i gotta be way more aggressive about "doing that would be draining to me and i just don't want to do it, we're still friends though" and not immediately backing down on it

really gotta get way more mercenary about what i expect from people around me and how much of my energy i'm willing to spend on others because even if it's sustainable normally, as soon as i have a rough day and don't have as much energy, i have no way to recover, a lot of things that expect more than i can give, and nobody around willing to help me back onto my feet

i just kinda run things so hard that as soon as something slows me down i don't have room to manage it, i just get sucked into the gears

i just want one week of my life where i only have to take care of myself before i go back to spending all my energy doing things for other people

i feel like people normally deal with all these things but nobody just has absolutely all of them stack up on a single day like this

also i completely jacked up my neck getting into this tiny shit car my mom has when i'm used to getting into my regular car for normal human beings so between that and my shoulder still being messed up i'm really going to enjoy all the art i have to do for my job stuff tonight

just have to get back and do caretaking stuff for my dad and clean his house and cram my work schedule into half the time and skip sleep and drive my mom home from the airport in the morning and catch up on work and then I can sleep

if food poisoning kills me anywhere in there, I get to sleep earlier

“why does my throat hurt” I say, standing outside filling a car tire while it’s 85F out and I have food poisoning and my watch is beeping at me about near-hazardous air quality

just reached the part of being sick where everything is too hot and too cold at the same time hell yes let’s go